At some point in relationships when we realize (or should I say think) the relationship is venturing to a serious level, we would like for our mate to meet the other people in our life we love-our family. Overtime, we somehow develop great relationships with their family and adopt them as part of our own. It even gets to the point where you find yourself so comfortable being around them, your mate's presence isn't needed for you to visit or communicate with them anymore.
Well, what happens when the relationship between you and your mate ends? Should the relationship you've developed with his or her mom/dad/sister/cousin/brother cease and desist? Should there be an understanding between their family and you that if you and your mate were to break up, communication would end? What if the relationship with their family has become more important to you? If you didn't stop communication with their family, how would you feel if your mate's name came up in the conversation? How are you expected to act if you and your "ex-mate" are at the same event with his family?
I'm interested to know what your opinions are on the boundaries of this situation. Thoughts???
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great post.
ReplyDeleteAnd one of the reasons why I am leary of developing relationships with women who have small kids.
I once became attached to the toddler son of a woman I'd dated for almost three years - known for 7 or 8 years total, and when our relationship ended ... we became friends again in due time, Yet she refused to allow me to spend time w/ her and her son. Her reason: she wanted KJ to bond w/ her new boyfriend.
Of course I obliged, but felt that she was full of ish.